Have Fun, Achieve More!

Just recently my work and social life have been very hectic, so managing and balancing my time has been quite a challenge.

My school coaching and mentoring work is growing significantly. As mock exams approach and the GCSE machine starts to rumble,  stress and anxiety starts to build in my students.

On a social front, for some reason everyone seems to want to get together before the Christmas party mayhem commences. My social calendar has never been so busy in November!

Reflecting back over the last few weeks and acknowledging what I have achieved has been very interesting. What I had not realised is the amount of things I had combined, incorporated and completed in this busy period. Not only that – I have managed to balance work and fun whilst being mindful of my own well-being.

Here are some of my top tips for maintaining a balanced life:

  • Be specific and clear about what goals you want to achieve – both work and leisure
  • Stay focused and don’t let anything distract you
  • Have fun, laugh lots and feel good about yourself
  • Be flexible, sometimes things need to be moved around/changed
  • Embrace the growth mindset approach
  • Be aware and mindful of others feelings/emotions
  • Communicate effectively
  • Look after yourself – eat well, stay hydrated, exercise regularly, get plenty of sleep
  • Acknowledge your achievements and treat yourself
  • Do more of what makes you happy

Have a great week and achieve lots. If you need assistance with time management or focusing and achieving your goals then contact me.

 

 

Risk Taking and The Adolescent Brain

I attended a very interesting presentation at my daughter’s school this week on ‘The Mysterious Workings of the Adolescent Brain’. This was part of the Aspire Lecture Series.  The presentation was given by Dr Emma Kilford who is part of the research team at University College London (UC L), working for Professor Sarah-Jayne Blakemore, Professor of Cognitive Neuroscience.

The presentation covered:

  • How the adolescent brain develops
  • Peer influence on risk taking
  • Social exclusion in adolescence and its effects

Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) was used to study the adolescent brain and the changes it goes through to maturity. The human brain actually develops from the back to the front. All the complex functions and the social brain network are located at the front of the brain and are the last to develop which would explain why we mature with age – hence why we  make different decisions as adults than we would as a child. MRI scanning confirms that the brain continues to develop into our thirties and that grey matter changes level off around age 28.

The research team were particularly interested with how adolescents approach risk-taking and the difference that peer influence has on them. Their experiment was to monitor young people taking risks when put into a driving game simulator alone and then with their peers. The results were very interesting in that the risk-taking trebled leading to more crashes when the peer group were added. The statistics state that young people are more likely to have a car accident with other young people in the car where adults are more likely to have a crash when alone, so quite the opposite.

Adolescents are hypersensitive to social exclusion which can lead to mood change and affect decision making.  Being in a group can affect the normal behaviour of a young person. For example, a well behaved son and student can behave like a thug when attending a football match with friends and make different decisions than if he was alone.  The choices young people make can differ depending on the social factors. Young people are more likely to smoke, drink or take drugs if their friends are doing it.

The team also looked at how social influence impacts risk perception in adolescents. They presented teenagers with a list of scenarios including swimming in a lake at night, driving without a seatbelt, walking down a dark alleyway alone. They then asked them to rate the risk of each scenario on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being low and 10 being high. The teenagers were then shown data from other teenagers who had rated the risk higher. They then asked the teenagers to do the exercise again and all the ratings went up across the board. This shows that adolescents are influenced by other people’s perceptions. The experiment was also run using the risk ratings of adults which also increased the ratings on the age groups (8 to 11), (15-18), (19 to 25) and (26 to 59). The only group that was influenced more by their peers and not by adults was age group (12 to 14).

To summarise, the adolescent brain goes through many stages of development which can have an affect on decision making, risk-taking, emotions, rewards, happiness and behaviour. Synaptic changes (life experiences stored in the brain) are significant in adolescence and a pruning system occurs where dormant synapses are removed to make room for the ones that are used on a regular basis. Environmental and social influence have a significant impact on the adolescent teenager and explains why they can be so different. There is no such thing as the average teenager!

I found this a very informative and useful presentation and explains some of the reasons why young people behave and make the decisions that they do. I will certainly take this into consideration around the students that I coach in schools.

If you know a young person struggling through adolescence who would benefit from life coaching then please contact me.

Coaching for Revision Success

It is that time of year again where Year 11 students start to go into panic mode as mock exams are knocking on the door and actual exams are becoming a reality.

Coaching my students through the exam process on a one to one or group basis enables them to build confidence, manage stress levels and create a strategy for success. Here are some of my top tips for organising time and staying calm during a very busy year:

  • Create a revision timetable
  • Build a spreadsheet including all subjects, current grades, predicted grades, areas for improvement, who and what can be of assistance – (this spreadsheet should really be updated regularly throughout the academic year)
  • Weekly planning –  incorporating homework, revision, social commitments and fun activities
  • Communication – share your commitments to avoid unexpected demands on your time

By doing all of the above, students can plan, prepare and schedule their time and keep control over their busy lives. It enables them to identify their current progress and then arrange help and support regarding areas for improvement. Staying in control of their time means that stress is manageable, anxiety is kept to a minimum and the chances of getting overwhelmed is greatly reduced. Communication within the family – for example being clear on family activities and other schedules – is key for avoiding surprise demands on work timetables.

If you know of a young person or group of students that would benefit from coaching in their final year then please contact me.